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5 Secrets For A Long Marriage
September 9, 2021

Most of us can point to couples who have been together for years yet still seem as content to be together as they ever were. We can also think of marriages or other relationships which, despite much early promise, no longer seem to work.

Needless to say there is no specific ‘magic formula’. But there are certain qualities and behaviours within a relationship and the individuals involved that increase the chances of a it lasting;

1. Communicate

Being able to communicate your needs and feelings as an individual is important. Successful copules communicate regularly, openly and directly. If you need to challenge an aspect of your partner’s behaviour do so in a manner that is respectful but assertive

2. Choose Your Battles Carefully

There will inevitably be times when as a couple you irritate or annoy each other or you disagree about something. Save your energy for the big discussions, such as finances, children and career decisions, rather than bickering about whether the top is back on the toothpaste and the toilet seat up or down.

3. Compromise

Relationships are about giving and taking. Whilst it is important to be assertive about your needs, there will be times when something means more to your partner than to you, or there is a need to compromise to find a way forward. There needs to be balance, however; if one person feels they have to compromise more than the other this can lead to resentment

4. Don’t Underestimate The Importance of Trust and Honesty

You and your partner need to be the one person each is able to depend upon in the long-term, without question or doubt. This is more than sexual fidelity; it is about treating your partner with respect, even in the smallest of ways

5. Be Realistic

The romance and excitement of a new relationship is a wonderful experience, but it is never going to be an intensity you can maintain as a couple in the long term. Appreciating that day-to-day kindness, love and companionship are just as special and rewarding will lead to greater satisfaction.